Why?
Why am I writing a blog on this awful subject? I almost hate to lump myself in with people who have been shunned but it wouldn't be honest to do otherwise. I am posting for several reasons:
- Being shunned is a common experience.
- I didn't find much help online for targets of shunning. (Notice I didn't say "victims".)
- I have years of experience, unfortunately, with being shunned by various groups and individual people.
- I think I have some insight into why this happens to me more than others.
- I handled some of these situations creatively.
- I don't have the credentials to write a book on this subject.
- I plan to discuss common social problems involving autism and mental illness as they relate to being shunned.
I really liked you blog and have seen this for my self.I have had friends family do this to my family members.I would love to get a coment from you.
ReplyDeleteI also liked your blog. I blew the whistle on a group of male teachers and the principal at my children's school who all have serious teacher misconduct involving students there including my child. I spoke publicly about it, and I got threatened shunned verbally abused my many teachers and parents and their friends at that school. It is very traumatic, not only the facts what happened to my child, and other students there, but the fact myself and my children were doing the right, morally and integrity thing to do!...I understand if you shun someone you know is a murderer or paedophile...but to shun a parent they have known and previously friends with for many years, because that parent was protecting her children and all students at the school is, to shun us and bully us is shameful. Education departments seem to encourage staff being bullies.
ReplyDeleteAs I see it,people are protecting their selves in all of these behaviors.Your answer went to a old friend and don't know if he was surching on my mail or it just happened.Bullies come in all shapes and sizes. Friends are the worse of the lot because we trust them...I hope this has cleared up for you by now but many times it is rehashed over and over again..
DeleteI was shunned in the military. I learned not to take it personally. The men who shunned me were much older and were basically washed up and looking at getting kicked out. I was young and newly promoted, and they resented this. They basically literally turned there backs on me after a meeting we were briefed by the platoon commander, I said to the senior nco's wait I don't understand, and they physically turned there backs and walked away.
ReplyDeleteI was shunned in the military. I learned not to take it personally. The men who shunned me were much older and were basically washed up and looking at getting kicked out. I was young and newly promoted, and they resented this. They basically literally turned there backs on me after a meeting we were briefed by the platoon commander, I said to the senior nco's wait I don't understand, and they physically turned there backs and walked away.
ReplyDeleteWhen you write: "I almost hate to lump myself in with people who have been shunned," it makes me think you do not understand that people who are being shunned are being bullied.
ReplyDeleteIts the shame that makes others deny being bullied.I hate it when this is done..I saw it in my own family, had it done to us.we did it to each other..I was always ashamed to tell,just like when husbands beat their wives or the other way around.When i started to write on this it was because of things that happened in the family in the past.(Religion)And how being poor entered into how we felt about our selves..
ReplyDeletesusan,Your blog was how to handle being shunned,I believe it just have to ware its self out..Shunned,or bullies become tired of it after a while..And they never admit to it.do not recognize it
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